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Monday, 1 January 2018

How To Actually Stick To Your New Year's Resolutions (2018)

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So January is here - it's that time of the year again where we all make a list of self-improving habits and related goals we vow to achieve throughout the year.  The first month or weeks into the year are usually the easiest you have all the motivation in the world, then comes February you are now fighting hard in an attempt to stay on track but eventually the motivation is lost. Yet another year, another failed New Year's resolution *sigh* and of course you tell yourself "I will give it another shot next year". We have all been there right? However 2018 can be different..

Firstly, when it comes to making resolutions do not follow the crowd and go with the typical resolutions. Instead, be more specific - are you going to the gym because that's one aspect of your life you really want to work on or because that's what everyone else is doing? Once you think of your own aspirations, make them the centre of your resolutions. This then gives you true motivation to work hard and get things done in order to achieve your goals. To keep this motivation going and to reinforce your goals it is important you constantly remind yourself why you are doing something and what it means to you - you can do this by either writing them down or making a vision board and place it where you can see it often. According to a book called The Secret visualisation is one of the most powerful mind exercises you can do. As humans we are like magnets; we become and attract what we think and of course if you are constantly thinking of greatness and success, hard work and determination becomes second nature to you like breathing.

Planning ahead is also key - don't be one off those people that make their resolutions on New Years Eve based on their mindset on the day. Think of your reaching your goals like traveling to a destination, you don't leave on the spur of the moment and drive aimlessly 🤷‍♀️

Do bear in mind that things can't all be achieved at once. Whilst being realistic, keep your resolutions simple and focus clearly on your most important goal(s). If you have one big goal, focus on the small steps required to achieve it, I find the SMART method very useful when it comes to this part. Lastly, mistakes and slip ups are inevitable, do not let it throw you off the track. This is just a temporary failure, use it as a lesson to help refocus your attention and motivations. Usually this is a perfect time to remind yourself the reason behind your resolution: I love the quote "Setting and reaching goals isn't about willpower, it's about the power of your intention". Also REMEMBER to be not too hard on yourself, seek support from other people when needed and reward yourself when you reach smaller milestone achievements as well as the bigger goals.

  Good Luck and Cheers to a positive, healthy and happy new year!

                                                                      -Rue xx 





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Monday, 11 December 2017

How to cope with Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)



Winter is "the most wonderful time of the year" for some people - holidays, winter wonderland, cozy nights in etc. However, for others the shortened days and darker nights brings out SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder).  
What is Seasonal Affective Disorder?-  In case you haven't heard of this term before, this is a type of depression that comes and goes in a seasonal pattern. Can also be known as Winter depression because the symptoms are more apparent during the winter and autumn season and often disappears during spring and summer. Symptoms of SAD can include; irritability, loss of interest in normal daily activities, persistent low mood, sleepy/ lack of energy during the day, food cravings (carbs especially) and weight gain etc. 
(source: NHS uk ) 

Although seeking professional/medical help is certainly the route to managing any form of depression, what can you do for yourself to cope? 

1. Light - Take advantage of the sunny days, spending time outside can boost serotonin levels - this is the chemical in that is responsible for maintaining mood balances in our body. Lack of serotonin leads to depression. Alternatively, make sure you are exposed to natural light when you are indoors, open the blinds and curtains. Light in general lifts up your mood as compared to being in the dark - I work in a dementia care setting and it is a fact that poor lighting can increase anxiety in patients and can affect their mood. 

2. Diet and exercise - It's no secret that exercise can relief stress and boost your overall mood. People who exercise on a regular tends to feel more positive about themselves this is because when you exercise you'll naturally release endorphins. For someone who has SAD or who doesn't exercise on a regular it doesn't have to be anything extremely exhausting - even a little walk can make a difference. Also maintain a healthy diet, avoid foods high in simple carbohydrates (fight those cravings!). Grains, vegetables, fish, poultry and meat are some of the foods containing serotonin. 

3. Good Sleep - When you are depressed you tend to sleep a lot anyway, however avoid napping during the day by staying active and make sure you get enough sleep during the night. Sleeping is just as important as eating and drinking, it helps you keep on track and your mood balanced. 

4. Talk to people and Maintain your routine - Do not isolate yourself from friends and family,  sharing your problems with your loved ones is very important as they will help you get the help you deserve. Do not suffer in silence it will only make the situation worse. Lastly, do not neglect your everyday activities/ hobbies, make an effort to stay active. Life is too short to put on pause. 


If all fails book a winter sun holiday! (but seek help first) 
                                                               
                                                                        -Rue xx 

     
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Tuesday, 21 November 2017

Easy DIY: Moisturising Mask



Winter is almost approaching and the cold weather is definitely on already therefore it is important to keep your skin hydrated and moisturised through the harsh weather. Here is a quick, simple DIY home made face mask recipe I thought I'd share with you.

You will need:
4 x tbsp Oats
2 x tbsp Milk or Yogurt
1 tsp Honey
Few (4-6) Lemon drops

-Grind the oats in a food processor or using a wooden rolling pin. Mix all the above together.
- Apply on damp face (moist skin absorbs active ingredient more than dry skin) and neck and leave for 15-20 minutes
- To remove, rub thoroughly and rinse with luke warm water.
- Use a paper towel to dry your face.
- Voila! AND moisturise :) You can even use olive oil or coconut oil if you want to keep it all natural.
            
To name a few benefits of the ingredients : Oats will act as an antioxidant, yogurt will gently exfoliate, tighten and freshen up the skin (helping to reduce spots and scars) and honey will moisturise and nourish the skin whilst also preventing and treating acne. I wouldn't recommend the lemon drops to people with sensitive skin, however lemon is rich in Vitamin C and Citric Acid which can help brighten your skin. This face mask is suitable for all skin types and ideally should be applied once or twice (max) per week.

Thank me later;) 

                                                                           -Rue xx 






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Sunday, 12 November 2017

Affordable Christmas Gift Guide For Him




I can't believe it's nearly that time of the year again, where has the time gone?!? Ladies I'm sure you can all agree with me, shopping for men can be the most challenging part of your Christmas shopping,  they either seem to have everything already or don't want anything at all. This is why I tend to go for the basics, the things I know he needs but wouldn't buy for himself.  If you are struggling for ideas here's a few:-



1. Boxers - Unlike us women,  most men don't know how to replace underwear instead we have got to do the clear out as well the replacement for them ( I don't remember the last time my boyfriend bought himself boxers), so new pairs are always a treat.

2. Shirts - Smart shirts are a good gift if you are buying for someone who wears formal clothes to work or majority of the time. Moss London is my go to website/store for quality slim fit shirts, their 3 for 2 prices gets me all the time!

3. Watch - This is the most expensive thing on the list but it's worth it. Who doesn't love a good timepiece? I have an obession for the classic Daniel Wellington watches, I think it's the simplicity that's appealing to me which makes them very elegant and timeless. DW are currently giving a 10% discount if you purchase two watches so why not treat your self as well by getting the same watch in a smaller size (petite collection) which is the women's version.

4. Aftershave - You simply can't go wrong with a decent fragrance! Of course you want your man smelling all kinds of yummy right? My all time favourite masculine scents are the Chanel Bleu , Jo Malone Orris & Sandalwood Cologne (unisex), Dior Sauvage  , Tom Ford Black Orchid and Ralph Lauren Polo Black . 

5. Grooming kit -  Grooming kits are always a good idea, however make sure you put some thought into it and get something the person will appreciate and make use of. For someone with a beard, this Wahl beard care kit from Debenhams has all the essentials needed to maintain it well from combs, a brush and a smoothening oil.

Note: It's all about quality not quantity. Whatever it is that you buy put some thought into it and ask yourself if you would be happy with the gift if you were the one receiving it.

 I wish the list was a bit longer but I’m running out of ideas myself so any other suggestions in the comments will be muchly appreciated :) x

                                                       -Rue 

                                               
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Tuesday, 7 November 2017

Importance of self care






Being a mental health advocate and as much as I know the importance of self care, I must say  have been having difficulties implementing it into my own life. With me being a full time nursing student, working part time and not to mention other commitments life has been very busy lately. It was only until two weeks ago when I finally had a whole week off  I realised I haven't been prioritising on things I enjoy doing. Instead, I was either working or at uni and every little free time I had I found myself catching up on sleep. I was exhausted to say the least. Not only was this affecting my wellbeing but it was also affecting those around me. I was slowly becoming a colleague/friend from hell.

Self care is something I have been practising for a long time, there are certain things I like doing simply because they help me recharge, unwind and puts me in a better mindset. Understanding your own needs is very crucial for your overall  health, it is pretty much self therapy that then allows you to focus on other aspects of your life without being overwhelmed or stressed. However, sometimes life can get hectic and it is easy to forget about yourself in the process. It is important we constantly remember to look after ourselves. Usually, when we start to experience an overload burn-out it is very easy to lose focus that what we consider being "productive" actually becomes counterproductive. We also begin to lose interest in everything around us. Taking a little time out to recharge can help you refocus. Also, avoiding situations that are mentally draining and maintaining healthy relationships with yourself and other people is also a way of practising self care.

There are many tips on how to take care of yourself out there, however it is important to remember that self-care is all about what works best for you and certainly isn't always luxury. Whether it's keeping active, spending some time alone connecting with yourself,  reading, cooking, travelling etc. whatever  it is that you love and puts you in good spirits,  always make time for it. This will help you cope with life stress and stay on top of your physically and mentally form.

                                                                -Rue xx 



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Monday, 16 October 2017

23 THINGS I'VE LEARNT IN 23 YEARS


Although this life has taught me way more, I thought it will be a cool idea to list only 23 lessons since it's my 23rd birthday and also I want this blog to be a quick one (packing for Amsterdam as we speak!).This habit of reflection is something I usually do on my birthday every year, looking back at the things I have achieved/learnt about myself in the previous year allows me to change certain aspects of my life. So without further ado..

1. Take everyday as a blessing, you never know what's around the corner
2. Never set a timeline for things that are meant to happen naturally (e.g relationships) 
3. Your parents are ALWAYS right
4. It's better to be alone than to be in bad company
5. Friends come and go
6. If you can’t stop thinking about it BUY IT😆
7. Self care is very important
8. The longer you hold on to resentment the more it sucks happiness out of you
9. Growth happens outside your comfort zone
10. A glass of wine is always the solution even if you are not sure what the problem is. 
11. Don't compete or compare yourself to anyone, everyone's journey is different
12. What you choose to focus on becomes your reality (positive/negative)
13.  It's okay to be selfish sometimes, your happiness should always be your top priority
14. Learn to be content with what you have while you pursue, wait and pray for what you want
15. Only you have your best interest at heart
16. Do not burn bridges, you never know who will be there for you tomorrow and who won't be
17. Do not hesitate to remove yourself from toxic situations
18. Do not hold high expectations for people
19. Your time is precious, do not let anyone waste it
20. Travelling is good for the soul
21. Change isn't always scary
22. Bad decisions are both a blessing and a curse..appreciate the blessing and learn from curse.
23. Law of attraction is real and so is Karma...

ps (Shout out to all the October babies) xx 




                                                                         -Rue xx 
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Saturday, 30 September 2017

He is just not that into you...

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If there is one thing I've learnt about men during my dating experience is that they are very transparent and upfront with their intentions, us women just overlook it in hopes they would change right? The truth is when a guy is into you the signs are clear as a day. I believe men are born to pursue women  and if you find yourself in a situation that is the other way round that is an obvious sign he is not into you. Usually this type of guy will string you along until he decide what he wants, it's generally because he already knows what he doesn't want (you) so the earlier you realise this the better.  These are some signs he might just be playing games with you:-

1) You are always the one initiating contact - when a guy is into you he loves talking to you and always checks up on you when he doesn't hear from you. (When I started dating my boyfriend he would tell me about the number of times he got caught messaging me under the desk at work ha.)

In my opinion; if it takes him a day to send a text back he is certainly sending you a message of another kind.  Nowadays people are always on their phone. You are just not a priority.

2) He only speak to you when it suits him - this is the guy who just disappears or stops talking to you  without an explanation. You will probably hear from him again when he is drunk, bored or in some cases things aren't okay at home (in other words you are the side chick - which takes us to my next point)

3) He is already involved with someone else - you might not or  you might be aware but simply don't care or have you a little hope aka delusional. He might say everything you want to hear but if there is someone in his life already, he surely can't be giving you his all.

4)... *sigh*

Listen, I could go on with the list but I hate having to repeat the obvious. My point is if a guy wants you, you'll know it. Mixed signals are a myth. So what do you do now you have realised the he isn't the one? Release your hope for him, let go and move on with your life! it was never serious in the first place. As women our problem is we tend to fall for words rather than actions, some men are scam STAY WOKE and don't get stringed along in situationships.You will end up disappointed if you think everyone is for you. When things doesn't work out like you hoped they would and it's beyond your control all you can do is focus on yourself, one day you will be glad it turned out the way it did.  In my previous blog I mentioned the importance of leaving a bad situation - your soul mate might be somewhere out there but you are blocking this blessing if you keep holding on to "Mr MAN" who has zero interest in you. And besides you are still young, enjoy the dating experience without getting too attached to people. Not everyone you talk to is going to be boyfriend material and don't be in a rush to settle down that you end up settling instead.

                                              -Rue-
                                                xxx


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